It is February, and you know what that means: romance is in the air. Whether you are in a relationship or not this time of the year, romance always seems to be on people’s minds, and with romance comes questions.
Although I am not an expert on romance, I will try to answer Guilford’s submitted questions to the best of my ability.
Q: Does the amount of people that your partner has had sex with matter? How many is too many for a female or a guy?
A: Well, I believe this is something that ranges from person to person. Some people may think that you should only have one sexual partner or no sexual partners, while others may not care how many partners a person has had.
My best advice to you is to figure out what number you are comfortable with. But don’t forget that just because it’s a number you are comfortable with does not mean anyone has to be as comfortable with it as you are.
Q: How do you friend-zone a guy nicely?
A: Although this can be a tough thing to do, sometimes you just have to do it. I believe you need to be straightforward. A couple things could happen. One: you could do it, and he does not remain your friend if he does not want anything less than a relationship. Two: he could accept the fact and remain your friend. If he decides he does not want to remain friends, then you will just have to accept the fact that he only wanted a relationship and probably would not make a good friend anyway.
Q: How do I make a guy love me more than he loves his Xbox 360?
A: I believe the best way to handle this would be to get a hammer (East Wing preferably) and, right in front of him, proceed to hit the Xbox 360 multiple times until it is unrecognizable.
That was just a joke, so don’t get any ideas.
On a more serious note, I think you should have a talk with him about the issue. Tell him you don’t mind him playing it, but if he really cares about you, he should find a perfect balance between you and the Xbox that will make both of you happy.
Q: Is it possible to be in love with two guys?
A: I believe that it is possible to be in love with two different people. However, I think it has to be a different kind of love. There are always going to be people in your life that you will never forget — maybe a first love or a high school sweetheart — but there is still that greater love that keeps you with that one person.
If you are with someone that you think you love and you find yourself falling in love with someone else, it is possible that you do not love the person you are with in the same way anymore. If it does not feel right, it does not feel right, and if it feels right, then it feels right.
Q: How do you find really awkward guys to match your lovely awkward personality?
A: Well, you already made big step just coming to Guilford. There is quite a bit of awkwardness floating around this campus. Stay awkward and eventually someone will love your awkwardness. You do not have to go out and search for it; just let it come naturally.
For any more questions involving relationships or romance, I recommend “Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus” by John Gray, Ph.D.
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