Whether your main squeeze was expecting flowers, you surprised an unsuspecting muse or you sent that, “I’ve been thinking about you” booty-call text to your first-year sweetheart, you had decisions to make. Whatever you chose, do not underestimate the weight of your Valentine’s Day choices. Now that the day is over, let’s discuss a few things.

For monogamous couples, planning your night was easy: silence your phone, go out to eat, drink some wine, avoid discussing past lovers or pushing any other proverbial “buttons,” perhaps avoid eating dairy products, and then conclude your evening peacefully while cuddling on a blanket, driving around town, frolicking in a field, going to bed early, or checking in at work.

But the challenge was much greater for single folks.

Every decision means something more than it does at face value. Beware of the weight of your words on this day; you might have ended up proposing when all you really wanted was a one-night-stand.

You must also be on constant alert. Did your Binford Boytoy expect dinner? Did your Milner Mistress wake you up shooting flower petals from a leaf blower? Was your Hildebrandt Honey mad that you’d rather stare at the Quakeria fish tank than listen to her read passages from “My Antonia?” Or did your weekend Wubba Woo decide Valentine’s Day was the perfect time to take your relationship to the next level?

You can’t run. You can’t hide. Valentine’s Day happened. Re-negotiate the expectations of Valentine’s Day with your girlfriend, boyfriend, partner, hubby or Googley Bear so you don’t become a disappointment. Lower the standards before you fall short of the bar.

Where will you plant your seeds of love in 2013? Which plants will you choose to water and which plants will you let wither?